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EDGES MAGAZINE Issue |
October 1998 |
THINGS STARTED TO GO WRONG FOR ME
I was born
in Luton and lived there up until 12 years of age, then I moved to
Rochdale with my mum. I moved back down to Luton at 15 to live with my
dad. Since then I've been moving up and down the country. I've got a
brother and a sister, I'm the oldest, my sister's 21, my brother is
14, they still live with my mum. I came back from Luton last September
for a funeral and my mum talked me into staying and then kicked me out
on Boxing Day. Since then I've stayed with friends and came to the
North about six weeks ago to a shelter who put me up for a week and
then I went to a house which I shared with other people.
Things started to go wrong just after Christmas this year
when my mum threw me out, which meant I had to give up my job because
I was living too far away from it and it hadn't started going right
really until I've moved to Blackburn - things seem to be improving. My
mum threw me out because I left when I was 15, I came up for my
grandfather's funeral last September and I think it was mainly her new
husband who didn't like me, I think he was the pressure behind her
throwing me out. I am 23 now, when I came up for the funeral my mum
talked me into giving up my house and job where I was living down
south to move back in with her. So I thought "fair enough"
but it didn't work out and she asked me to leave at Christmas. I was
working as a dry-cleaner down south and I thought I'd find another job
along the same lines up here, which so far I haven't, so I'm going
back to college to do some A-levels. It has been a bit of a
slog. I have met more people in the six weeks I've been in Blackburn
than in all of the seven months I was in Bacup where my mum lives, and
they seem to be a lot more genuine round here. In Bacup there's a very
big drug problem with Heroin, which I don't associate myself with, so
a lot of the people were never going to be friends in Bacup.
I was brought up as a Catholic, but I think over the last four or
five years I have become a bit cynical over religion through seeing
all the bad things that happen about the world and people close to me
etc. I think there is something there, we're not just here and that's
it, I can't explain the way I believe or what I believe in. I think
when I was at school I was quite a devout catholic because I was
serving on the altar every day and going to church on a Sunday etc.
but I haven't done that since I was about 16. The only time I ever go
to church now is Christmas Eve, weddings and funerals for some reason.
I was going to a Catholic school and they arranged the altar boys for
the services in the church across the road everyday, so I just ended
up doing that for about seven years, sometimes I'd be at church about
twelve times in a week with the altar services but that really stopped
when I moved from Luton to Lancashire, because that's when I stopped
going to church, I think. At the moment I've got a
girlfriend who, since I've moved to Blackburn, I can't see as much of
as I'd like. She lives in Waterfoot, which if I go over there of an
evening, I can't get back to Blackburn so I end up having to book into
a hotel or whatever - that's the only bad point really about being in
Blackburn. When I was living in Bacup I used to meet her every
Thursday evening and I'd just walk home. Since I'm in Blackburn I have
to go to a bed and breakfast which will cost between 10 and 12
any time that I want to see her, which is very inconvenient. I have
kept my situation from my girlfriend, because when I met her we were
working together and she was asked to leave the company. I carried on
working and when I did lose my job, I just didn't tell her. I've
managed to keep it that way. She doesn't ask questions. The job I left
was a temporary job through the summer because it was a wedding hire
place which obviously, different times of the year was busier than
others. Since then, I haven't been able to find any work. With being
in a hostel at the moment, it would be impossible for me to look for
work because the rent would be 120 or more per week, whereas
being on Social Security that's paid for by Housing Benefit.
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