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Christian Beliefs, Teachings, Doctrines, Christian Living, Christian Ethics
Whosoever cometh to me, and heareth my sayings, and doeth them
is like a [wise] man which built a house, and digged deep, and laid the foundations on a rock:
and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it:
for it was founded upon a rock (Luke 6:47-48)
Let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon.
For other foundation can no man lay that is laid, which is Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 3:10b-11)
If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalm 11:3)
Websites and Recommended Reading
Websites on Various Aspects of Marriage, Home, and Family | Books, CDs, DVDs, etc | Marriage Home and Family
Marriage | Divorce and Remarriage | Children | Articles and YouTubes | The Home: Quotes and Comments
The Home: Some Scriptures | Foundations Home Page
"As goes the child so goes the future adult - and the future parent. At every moment, parents holding little children are holding the future. Parenting, the most important and demanding job in the world comes on us by default. ready or not, prepared or ill-equipped, all parents produce fruit that lasts throughout eternity. ... The Bible and common sense are the foundations for effective parenting..."
"The Family Research Council's vision is a culture in which all human life is valued, families flourish and religious liberty thrives. Family Research Council's mission is to advance faith, family and freedom in public policy and the culture from a Christian worldview."
Articles on State Education and Homeschooling. "What is education for? Surely it is to prepare children for life..." / "What is education, if not teaching children about the way the world works?..." / "And all thy children shall be taught of the LORD; and great shall be the peace of thy children" (Isaiah 54:13).
Articles on the State's intrusion into the sanctity of the family: the socialist 'collectivisation' of our children and the interventions of social workers into parenting. "We must remove the children from the crude influence of their families. We must take them over and, to speak frankly, nationalize them" / "Above all things, the child needs protecting from the state."
Articles on the effects of Cultural Marxism on the family. The desire of the Frankfurt School was "to provoke socialist revolution. Their task, therefore, was swiftly as possible to undermine the Judaeo-Christian legacy. ... The School recommended ... encouraging the breakdown of the family. ... To further their aims they would attack the authority of the father, deny the specific roles of father and mother, and wrest away from families their rights as primary educators of their children ... [and] abolish all forms of male dominance..."
Articles on the effects of Cultural Marxism on the family. The desire of the Frankfurt School was "to provoke socialist revolution. Their task, therefore, was swiftly as possible to undermine the Judaeo-Christian legacy. ... The School recommended ... the teaching of sex and homosexality to children. ... One of the main ideas of the Frankfurt School was to exploit Freud's idea of 'pansexualism' - the search for pleasure, the exploitation of the differences between the sexes, the overthrowing of traditional relationships between men and women..."
"It's no secret that there are many child molesters on the prowl today. Less well known is that these people represent a headache for Christians, because our fellowships are usually open to all and because we can be too trusting. ... This on-line book and accompanying website reveals the chilling growth in child sex attacks throughout [church] denominations. It also explains why this growth is taking place, and describes the simple, God-ordained ways in which churches can avoid this hazard and keep their children safe from even the most cunning, determined and experienced molesters and their devastating actions."
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Family Fundamentals (2012, second edition, Here I Stand Books, New Boston, NH 03070, USA)
"The happy home many of us remember is in trouble. Divorce rates rise continuously. Children are considered to be a burden or are allowed to run the home. The solution of mental health practitioners is counseling. The solution of government is parenting programs and day-care centers. The solution of educators is for us to give them our children at an earlier age. It is the author's conviction that the solution is in getting back to biblical truth about the home. God has given His instruction manual. The Bible outlines the structure for a happy home. The Bible tells us how to form the character of happy, obedient children. The answers do not lie with psychologists, government experts, or educators. Rather we need to obey what God says."
Christian Living in the Home (1972, Baker Book House, Michigan 49506, USA)
"This book is intended to serve two fundamental purposes. First, I hope that individuals and families will use this book on their own. In the home it may be used to evaluate, discuss, and improve on various aspects of the Christian home. I trust that it will point the way to God's solutions to problems. Second, this volume has been designed especially as an aid to Christian counselors. It may be used in conjunction with the counseling of husbands and wives, parents and children, or single members of the family. In the counseling of families, chapters may be assigned for reading and discussion between counseling sessions. ... It is my prayer that the Spirit of God will use this exposition and application of His Word to many Christian families for their blessing and for the growth of the church of the Lord Jesus Christ."
The Home: Courtship, Marriage, and Children (1946, B McCall Barbour, Edinburgh, EH1 1ES, Scotland)
"Much free advice is given about how to make marriage happy and successful. Some of this advice is good, some of it is bad, some of it is frivolous and incidental. ... Where is there honest, intelligent, practical teaching from the Word of God on how to have a successful, prosperous marriage, rear godly children, and make home a bit if heaven on earth? Certainly we need more such teaching. ... In this volume I do not claim any special wisdom. I simply profess to be God's preacher, trying to tell what He says in His Word about some holy matters, with practical applications..."
Created To Need A Help Meet (2012, NGJ, Pleasantville, TN 37033, USA)
"When I first decided to write [this book], I asked my happy wife what one thing I had done correctly and should pass along to other husbands. Her answer was immediate and straight to the point: ... [The] most enlightening marriage material [for this book] comes from the many letters and emails I have received from husbands and wives over the past 17 years ... [that] reveals common patterns that either lead to ruin or that heal and grow a marriage into something heavenly. It can almost be viewed as a science: the laws of sowing and reaping are extremely reliable. A marriage grows till it soars or it deteriorates till it's damned. In your correspondence, you have shown me a thousand times that a marriage can be saved and blossom into something beautiful. In addition, I have been a student of the words of God for the past fifty-four years, spending hours searching out every subject, and the husband and wife relationship has always been of particular interest to me. Through my experience and that of others I have found that God is the best marriage counselor on earth, and beyond it as well. After all, he who imagined and conceived of marriage, with all its complexities, will best know how to make the most of it."
Created To Be His Help Meet (2004, NGJ, Pleasantville, TN 37033, USA)
"Somewhere over the passing years and changing culture, women have lost their way. This book is written to lead them back home. Regardless of how you began your marriage or how dark and lonely the path that has brought you to where you are now, I want you to know that it is possible today to have a marriage so good and so fulfilling that it can only be explained as a miracle."
Me? Obey Him? (1994, second edition, Sword of the Lord, Murfreesboro, TN 37133, USA)
"The husband-wife relationship is the foundation for a happy and godly home. When the wife submits to the loving leadership of her husband, she is not an inferior partner. Once the responsibility of submission is understood and practiced, the plan of God brings privileges, blessings and joys which cannot be achieved any other way. ... Some of the ideas in these pages may be absolutely new to you and foreign to everything you have ever believed. Hopefully, you will find them absolutely faithful to the Scriptures and they will lead to holy and happy living. Because this is an area fraught with opinion and prejudice, you'll need to ask the Lord to open your heart and mind to the truth. Ask Him to show you exactly what He requires. Then, if I touch a place of need in your life, you will recognise it and seek cleansing for it. ... If you are willing to do what God shows you, then you can know what He wants you to do. Are you willing to do whatever He says? Really willing? Without any reservations or 'buts'? If God will make His will absolutely plain to you, will you do it? The Scripture says you can know the Bible teaching concerning a wife's subjection to her husband and enter into the blessed fulfilment of your womanhood."
Divorce: The Forgivable Sin (1988, Hodder and Stoughton, UK, Australia, New Zealand, Canada)
"The break-up of a marriage is for many people the most agonising experience of their lives. The kind of anguish involved can be compared in intensity only to the grief caused by a sudden and tragic bereavement and, in many respects, even that analogy is inadequate ... [but] the only thing they ever hear from the church about divorce is that it is all terribly sinful. ... If they are lucky, they may be referred to a professional counselling service of some kind by a local congregation which assumes that such vicarious involvement is sufficient. If they are unlucky, they will encounter a morass of theological confusion and crippling guilt. It is for those people that this book has been written. It is not intended to be a scholarly treatise on theology, law, psychology or anything else. It is intended rather to help those who have to walk that lonely and painful way through the morass. For there is a way and it leads not to despair but to new life."
Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the Bible (1980, Zondervan, Michigan 49530, USA)
"If the church is going to use the Bible to decide whether divorce is legitimate in certain cases and whether divorced people have the right to remarry with the approval and blessing of God's people, then the Bible must be studied without prejudice toward a particular answer. The author examines the relevant passages in both the Old and New Testaments so that his readers can consider the many issues and interpretations that arise in trying to establish a consistently biblical position. As a result, readers can see more clearly and accept more firmly the truth of Scripture. ... [The book] is a valuable resource for the pastor, the counselor, and the church leaders, as well as other individuals who are struggling to understand and apply scriptural principles to the problems of divorce and remarriage."
Training Children to Be Strong in Spirit (2011, NGJ, Pleasantville, TN 37033, USA)
"It is within your power as a parent to take actions that will bring your children into special favor with God and men. The heart of a Father and Mother can steer their children into a life of abundant joy and prosperity, but most parents have no idea how to make it happen. ... I am not talking about raising your children to employ gimmicks to 'win friends and influence people' so as to satisfy personal ambitions. Jesus 'increased in favor with God and man' resulting in his ability to serve God and man - the ultimate work of humanity. The Bible clearly defines six goals of child rearing and reveals practical means for us 'to train up a child in the way he should go.'"
The Spoilt Generation (2009, Piatkus, London EC4Y 0DY, UK)
"In the space of a few decades the way we parent has changed dramatically. Something we once did intuitively has become the subject of political fashion, guided by experts [sic]. The result? Our children - right across society - are now spoilt in ways that go far beyond materialism. They have been given so much in terms of legislation, rights and experience, yet they are suffering unimaginably, with rates of child depression, underage pregnancy, obesity and pre-teen alcoholism the highest since records began. By removing boundaries and retreating from authority, we adults have, it seems, failed our children, robbing them of their basic supporting structures. In this book, [the author] takes issues by the scruff of the neck, among them children's sense of entitlement, the effects of television and computers, single-parent homes and 'blended' families, parental guilt and the compensation culture. Tackling each one in a refreshingly honest and direct way, he offers a clear and practical message to us all - parents, grandparents, teachers and policy-makers alike - as to how we can redress the status quo, redefine our roles and, together, cultivate better-behaved and happier children."
To Train Up a Child (1994, NGJ, Pleasantville, TN 37033, USA)
"We live in a horse and buggy community where someone is always training a new horse. When you get into a buggy to go down a narrow, winding, state highway filled with eighteen-wheelers and logging trucks, you must have a totally submissive horse ... One mistake and the young men will again be making several new pine boxes and digging six-foot deep holes in the orchard. Parents that put off training until their child is old enough to discuss issues or receive explanations will find he has become a terror long before he understands the meaning of the word. ... To neglect training is to create miserable circumstances for you and your child. ... It is apparent that, though they expect obedience, most parents never attempt to train their child to obey. They wait until his behavior becomes unbearable and then explode. ... As you come to understand the difference between training and discipline, you will have a renewed vision for your family [and] happy obedient children. This is not a theory; it is a practical reality that has been successfully applied many times over."
Withhold Not Correction (1978, Presbyterian and Reformed Pubs, New Jersey 08865, USA)
"Why another book on training children? Because the Christian parent needs more [than medical or psychological advice]. He needs to know how to raise his children to be morally straight and spiritually alive. He needs to know how to bring them up in a manner that will be pleasing to God. ... Scripture is the standard of truth in this and in every other area of life. ... in order to be useful [all books on child-rearing] must be made subject to the Word of God. ... In today's society where parental authority is being compromised more than ever, this Proverbs 23:13 command may seem nearly impossible to obey. The line between discipline and abuse has been blurred and now appears ready to vanish. [The author] understands the difficulties facing modern parents, and he points to firm, biblical discipline as the solution. ... With timely and inspiring wisdom, he exposes the emptiness of contemporary advice on child-rearing and clearly outlines from Scripture the duties of every Christian parent."
Children: External Influences on Our Children
Your Child and the New Age (1990, Victor Books, Illinois 60187, USA)
"Our children are surrounded by influences alien to their very being. As parents we have the sobering responsibility to guard their welfare and to lead them in the ways of the Lord. [This book] began as a booklet [when the author] became concerned about the influences of the New Age on her three sons. As she widened her research and came to understand the New Age movement more deeply, and saw how it was impacting millions of children through the schools and the media, she knew she had to write this book to help other parents. ... We can teach our children to know Truth, so that they will discern the counterfeit. ... Confident that Gods reigns, we can confront these deceptive forces which reach out for children's hearts and minds. He, who loves our children even more than we do, will show us how to prepare them to recognise and resist evil - no matter how inviting its call."
Children: Paedophilia and Child Abuse
"A warning for children against sexual predators. Ninety percent of all child sexual predators are close friends to the family or family members themselves. The only way your child will ever know how to avoid being sexually exploited is that he/she has been carefully taught how to know ' the bad guy' and what to do when he says, 'Don't tell'. Yell & Tell books are written to save your child."
CD: When Forgiveness is a Sin (2009)
"The Bible does not teach that Christians are to forgive everyone. In some cases it would be a sin to forgive. See what the Bible says and free yourself from the bondage of modern psycho babble."
Children: Books for Children
The Yellow River (China) / Chief Sechele's Daughter (Africa) / Rain Out of the Ground (New Hebrides) / Too Busy Fishing (China) / Mamma Lillian (Egypt) / Jim Elliot and the Auca Indians (Equador) / A Fortress in the Church (Armenia)
Thus saith the LORD,