Self
"Natural evolution [is] part of a
deeper spiritual evolution of consciousness ... divinity within all
of us emerging more fully into manifestation, resulting in a
broader, deeper sense of Self"
[quoted at
source].
"Why are we offended and irritated
with other Christians? Surely, because Self is still on the throne
of our lives. We consider ourselves so important, that we feel we
must be respected and consulted by others. We feel that others must
behave and order their affairs as we want them to. We expect others
to be kind and considerate to us, to 'make much' of us and praise
us. Such feelings and expectations are clear evidence of the fact
that we know nothing of the cross experientially. Our lives are
still dominated by selfishness and revolve exclusively around Self
and its interests" [source].
"Jesus came to save us from self"
[source].
Self-Worth
"We are created in the image of God;
we are fearfully and wonderfully made; our names were written; we
were chosen ... in Him; we are God's own possession; and we have an
inheritance. These phrases all have one thing in common: they are
things done to us or for us by God. These are not things we have
done for ourselves, nor have we earned or deserved them. We are, in
fact, merely the recipients of 'all spiritual blessings in heavenly
places in Christ' (Ephesians 1:3). Therefore, we can conclude that
our worth is not really of the 'self' at all; rather, it is worth
given to us by God. We are of inestimable value to Him because of
the price He paid to make us worthy - the death of His Son on the
cross" [source].
"The Bible tells us that 'while we
were yet sinners, Christ died for us' (Romans 5:8). In fact, we
'were dead in trespasses and sins' (Ephesians 2:1). What worth is
there in dead things? None. God imputed to us His own righteousness
(2 Corinthians 5:21) not because we were worthy of it, but because
we were unworthy, unlovable, and unable to make ourselves worthy in
any way"
[source].
Self-Love and
Loving Our Neighbour as Ourselves
"The focus of love in the Bible is
upward and outward instead of inward. Love is both an attitude and
and action to one another. And while love may include sentiment and
emotional affection, it is primarily volitional action for the glory
of God and good of others" [source].
"Jesus does not command self-love,
but rather love for God and love for one another. The Bible presents
an entirely different basis for love than humanistic psychology
preaches. Rather than promoting self-love as the basis for loving
others, the Bible says the God's love is the true source ... God's
love is self-giving ... not a self-satisfying love"
[source].
"John ... describes the sequence of
love. In contrast to the teachers of self-love, who say that people
cannot love God and others until they love themselves, John says
that love originates with God and then extends to others (1 John
4:19-21)" [source].
"The statement 'love your neighbor as
yourself' is not a command to love yourself. It is natural and
normal to love yourself - it is our default position., There is no
lack of self-love in our world. The command to 'love your neighbor
as yourself' is essentially telling us to treat other people as well
as we treat ourselves. Scripture never commands us to love
ourselves; it assumes we already do. In fact, people in their
unregenerate condition love themselves too much - that is our
problem" [source].
"Jesus did not command us to
love ourselves. He did not say that there were three
commandments (love God, love neighbor, and love self). Instead, He
said, 'On these two commandments hang all the law and the
prophets' (Matthew 22:40). Love of self here is a given - a fact
- not a command" [source].
"Linguistically, agapao is
other-directed throughout Scripture, never self-directed. The
concept of self-love is not the subject of the Great Commandment. it
is only a qualifier. When Jesus commands us to love God with 'all
thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with
all thy strength' (Mark 12:30), He is emphasising the
all-encompassing nature of this agapao love (an action-love
that is beyond the possibility of the natural man, and only possible
through divine grace). If He has used the same words for loving
neighbor, He would have encouraged idolatry. However, for the next
degree of intensity He used the words, 'as thyself'"
[source].
"From the totality of Scripture ...
the love one naturally has toward himself is commanded to be
directed towards others. We are not commanded to love self. We
already do. We are commanded to love others as we already do
ourselves" [source].
"[T]he proper Biblical position for a
Christian is not to encourage, justify, or establish self-love, but
rather to devote one's life to loving God and loving neighbour as
[one already loves] self"
[source].
"We are to take our eyes off
ourselves and care for others"
[source].
Self-Esteem
"The self-esteem movement began in
the third chapter of Genesis ... The fruit of the knowledge of good
and evil spawned the sinful self with its self-love"
[source].
"Hundreds of studies have failed to
show that self-esteem training produces lasting positive results ...
merely feeling good about yourself doesn't necessarily make you more
effective. ... recent studies suggest that self-esteem training may
be harmful - that it leads many students to overestimate their
abilities, for example" [Dr. Robert Epstein, 'The Loose Screw
Awards', Psychology Today, (2005), quoted at
source].
"[T]eenagers with high self-esteem
are less inhibited, more willing to disregard risks and more prone
to engage in sex" ['Exploding the Self-Esteem Myth', Scientific
American, (Jan 2005)].
"That ... scholarly tome, The
Social Importance of Self-Esteem, summarizes all the research on
the subject in the stultifying boring prose of wannabe scientists.
Save yourself the 40 bucks the book costs and head straight for the
conclusion: There is precious little evidence that self-esteem is
the cause of our social ills"
[quoted at
source].
"Even though [the authors of The
Social Importance of Self-Esteem] searched for a connection between
low self-esteem and problematic behavior, they could not find a
cause and effect link. However, more recent studies indicate a
definite relationship between violent behavior and high self-esteem"
[source].
"Until the advent of humanistic
psychology and its heavy influence in the church, Christians
generally thought of self-esteem as a sinful attitude"
[source].
"Along with the world, numerous
Christians still believe in promoting and fostering self-esteem,
even though it is an unbiblical goal. The Bible clearly says that we
are not to think of ourselves more highly than we ought (Romans
12:3) and ... to 'let each esteem other better than themselves'
(Phil 2:3)" [source].
"In spite of all the verbal juggling to justify
self-esteem, it still boils down to pride"
[source].
Low Self-Esteem
"When I was a new Christian, I
battled feelings of failure and worthlessness daily. A wise teacher
suggested meditating on God's love promises 'day and night' (Psalm
1) for one month. She gave me a list: 'I have loved thee with an
everlasting love' (Jeremiah 31:3); 'Fear not: for I have
redeemed thee, I have called thee by name; thou art mine'
(Isaiah 43:1); 'Since thou wast precious in my sight, thou hast
been honorable, and I have loved thee' (Isaiah 43:4); '[W]e
are more than conquerors through him that loved us' (Romans
8:37); 'For I am persuaded, that ... [nothing] shall be able to
separate [me] from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our
Lord' (Romans 8:38-39). I affirmed these truths each morning
when I awoke, as often as I remembered them during the day, and
before going to sleep at night. Within a week, I had memorised them.
and they began to flow through my mind with little effort on my
part. God's Word was becoming part of me. By the end of the month, I
was a change person ... No man-made affirmation can compare with the
effectiveness of God's personal promises" [source].
"Shyness [low self-esteem] can
actually be a form of pride. Fear of what people will think about us
and being overtly concerned for the opinions of men (Ephesians
6:6-7, Proverbs 29:25) can be a reflection of obsession with self.
But the Bible says we are not to be worried about the opinions of
men" [source].
"[L]ow self-esteem [can be] a form of
pride. Some people have low self-esteem because they want
people to feel sorry for them, to pay attention to them, to comfort
them. Low self-esteem can be a declaration of 'look at me' just as
much as pride. It simply takes a different route to get to the same
destination, that is, self-absorption, self-obsession, and
selfishness" [source].
"I ministered ... in Pueblo,
Colorado, many years ago, and a man came up to me after the meeting
and said, ... 'I have such low self-esteem that I hate myself ...'
Pride, at its core, is simply self-centredness or selfishness. Timid
and shy people are extremely self-centred people. I know this to be
true because I was an introvert. I couldn't look at people in the
face and talk to them. I was so consumed with me that I was always
thinking, 'What are they going to think of me? Am I going to make a
mistake and look foolish?' That self-centredness made me shy.
... pride is not only thinking we are better than others; pride can
be thinking we are worse than others or just being self-conscious.
It doesn't matter if self is always exalting itself or if it's
debasing itself. It's all self-centredness, which is pride"
[source].
"If you hate yourself because you do
not 'measure up' according to worldly standards, realize that in
doing so you are showing hatred or anger toward God who made you as
you are and placed you in your current circumstances. If you hurt
yourself in act of self-hatred, is this not truly an act of
vengeance against God? We are to show thanks and honor to the
sovereign God who made us and placed us in our circumstances, no
matter what these may be" [source].
"Our awareness of God's holiness
makes us feel appropriately wretched. But this sense of clarity
regarding who we are and how we compare with an utterly holy God
does not need to result in self-destructive hatred of ourselves.
Rather, it should point us toward receiving the salvation and
forgiveness that God offers us"
[source].
Self-Realization
"Our Lord's teaching is always
anti-self-realization. His purpose is not the development of man;
His purpose is to make man exactly like Himself, and the
characteristic of the Son of God is self-expenditure. If we believe
in Jesus, it is not what we gain, but what He pours through us that
counts. It is not that God makes us beautifully rounded grapes, but
that He squeezes the sweetness out if us. Spiritually, we cannot
measure our life by success, but only by what God pours through us,
and we cannot measure that at all. 'He that believeth on me ...
out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water' (John 7:38)
- hundreds of other lives will be continually refreshed"
[Oswald
Chambers, My Utmost for His Highest, quoted at
source].
Narcissism
"Empathy is impossible for the
narcissist because his only perspective is the one centered on self"
[source].
"Psychological theories about
narcissism suggest that the narcissistic person used defense
mechanisms to idealise self so that he does not have to face his own
mistakes (sin) or flaws (fallen state). The diagnosis of
narcissistic personality disorder outlines the behavior patterns of
a narcissistic person as being haughty, non-empathetic,
manipulative, and envious; he also possesses a sense of entitlement
and grandiosity" [source].
"From a biblical perspective, it is
clear that these heart conditions are due to pride, which is sin
(Proverbs 16:18). The narcissist routinely disobeys [the] command in
Philippians 2:4" [source].
"We discover that to the narcissist
and his or her culture, all criticism is hate"
[source].
The Children of
the Culture of Limitless Self-Regard
The following is
an extended extract from the article
Redefining Hate: From Diabolical Anti-Love to Any Criticism of the
Fragile Self
"I remember my first encounter when
being taught Rogerian counselling techniques ... There were two core
elements: unconditional positive regard, and self-actualisation.
The implications of this non-directional counselling approach were
that the client would flourish if provided with limitless
affirmation and minimal direction, criticism or moral interference.
"Self-actualisation, which overlaps
with Jung's promotion of something very similar which he called
'individuation', replaced any external criteria of expectation (God
for example) with the trust that the internal needs of the person
would make themselves known, and, in the right affirming
environment, grow and flourish. The highest levels of self-regard
were crucial to this process.
"Rogers was born into a faithful
Pentecostal family and, as a bright young man, became an atheist. He
exchanged an anthropology which saw humanity as flawed by sin for
one which saw it flawed only by external and internal criticism.
"Jung's idea of individuation -
wholly untested and empirically evasive - also looked for the goal
of self-development as the main aim of the human journey. He looked
to the opposite poles of good and evil, male and female, rationality
and feeling, and prescribed a route of integration of opposites as
the fuel for the full development of the inner god-like potential of
the Self. His theory of the Self was that it replaced any
external God with an innate sense of the inner divine. We did not
need to be transformed by a God out there - because we had the inner
god of the Self, in here.
"These wholly un-Christian maps of
the psyche and mind required unlimited self-regard, and replaced
external moral agency with internal self-serving. They challenged,
undermined and replaced the old Christian world view and language.
In this new world of uncritical affirmation, 'love' took on a new
meaning. It became the insistence on accepting someone 'as they
are', with no preconditions and no criticism. What, then, does
criticism of the demanding and emerging ego constitute? Why, the
opposite: 'hate'.
"In Christian vocabulary, 'hate' is a
very terrible thing indeed. It is anti-God; the disposition of all
evil. But in the psychotherapeutic landscape of neo-ethics, where
the goal is the ego and emerging self, 'hate' is anything that is
anti the self. Imagine the scenario where there are external
moral demands from an external ethical source that challenged the
ego's agenda and perceived sense of need. Why, this would be
anti-love; it would be hate.
"And suddenly it all falls into
place. If, in the name of an external morality, a Christian voice
were to challenge the demands [that] the therapised ego insisted
made it happy or actualised, this Christian, or the Bible whose
words the Christian was calling upon, would become 'hate speech'.
...
"We discover that to the narcissist
and his or her culture, all criticism is hate.
"As we place these two worlds in
contrast with each other, the world of Christian revelation on the
one hand and the world of self-revelation on the other, key words,
whose meaning we thought that we thought we all agreed upon, begin
to signify very different values and meanings:
- God becomes not Yahweh, or the
Holy Trinity, but the primacy of the Self;
- Holiness morphs slowly into
wholeness ...;
- Love becomes not unending mercy,
charity or forgiveness, but uncritical regard of the other, or
of the Self;
- Hate becomes not a diabolical
anti-love, but any criticism of the Self's proclaimed agenda of
uncritical self-regard. ...
"The Culture of Limitless Self-Regard
has mined its memory and unconscious to release its anger and
harnesses it as hate, which it directs towards any agency that
suggests stoic or Christian restraint. It identifies any refusal to
accept its demands for self-realisation or self-satisfaction on its
own terms as hate.
"The struggle in the Church is not
one of compassion versus hate: it is one of revelation versus
narcissism. ... Authentic orthodox Christianity will continue to
challenge this shallow heresy of self-regard and self-indulgence,
not in the name of hate, but quite the opposite - in the name of the
holiness and mercy of the God who came in the chaste person of His
Son to set us free from the tyranny of the self and wash us clean
from self-preoccupation.
"The reason heresy matters, and must
be fought with passion and intellectual clarity, is because heresy
does not tell the truth about God or the self. And only the Truth
can set us free."
[End]
Thus saith the LORD,
Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask
for the old paths, where is the good way,
and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls
(Jeremiah 6:16)
©
Bayith Ministries
http://www.bayith.org
bayith@blueyonder.co.uk
|