20 Questions: Are you a sex addict?

Introduction

In SA you are a member when you say you are. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stay sober. These 20 questions are not a definitive test for sexual addiction they are simply an aid to help you determine whether or not you need SA. Sometimes members have come to SA early in their addictions. At these times they may have achieved quite a low score. However, as their addictions have progressed so new boundaries have been broken and, when answering these questions at a later date, they have achieved a much higher score. Keep your score handy as you go along, there is an analysis at the bottom of the page.

The Questions

Do you frequently use sexualised language?
Are you concerned that if people knew about your sexual behaviours it would affect your reputation?
Have you got into financial difficulties as a result of your sexual activity?
Does your pursuit of sex sometimes seem to take priority over the welfare of you or your family?
Do you crave sex and/or a relationship?
If a compatible person asked you to have sex with them, would you find it almost impossible to resist?
Do you turn to sex to escape from worries or trouble?
Is your sexual behaviour jeopardising your job? (Has it stopped you getting a job?)
Have you ever thought you may have a problem with your sexual thinking or behaviour?
Do you feel lonely and isolated after you engage in sexual activity?
Do you frequently resort to sexual images - either in your head, on paper or other media - to stimulate you sexually.
Have you taken risks with your health in your pursuit of sex?
Do you turn to a "lower environment" when acting out sexually?
Are you virtually unable to avoid masturbation once a sexual fantasy has entered your head?
Do you stimulate yourself sexually while driving?
Does there appear to be a progressive element to your sexual behaviour.
Have you ever lost time from work so that you could have sex in some way?
Is your pursuit of sex affecting your homelife?
Do you have a secret stash of pornography?
Do you have sexual secrets that you have never told anyone?

The Analysis

1 to 5. Lust may be causing you a few problems in your life and you probably have more of it than most people. You may or may not be a sexaholic. Talk to someone in SA or attend a meeting to see if you identify with the problem at all.

5 to 10. Reasonably strong likelihood that you are a sexaholic. Talk to someone in SA, go to a couple of meetings to see if you identify.

10 to 20. There is a very high probability that you are a sexaholic. If you wish to give up your addiction contact SA and start attending meetings.