Question
Thanks for taking the time to answer these questions:
1
Is/was your partner:
Transvestite/Cross dresser
Transgendered
Drag Queen
Shemale
Unsure - possibly TS
other
please state:
2
How old are you now?
16-20
21-25
26-30
31-35
36-40
41-50
51- 60
over 60
3
How old were you when you learnt that your partner was T*?
16-20
21-25
26-30
31-35
36-40
41-50
51- 60
over 60
4
Marital status: are you
single
married/ living
together
separated/ divorced
widowed
5
do you have children, if so how many at what age are they?
no children
under 5 years old
5-10 years old
11-15 years
old
16-20 years
old
21 or more
years old
6
Sexuality - do you consider yourself to be
heterosexual
gay/ lesbian
bisexual
a-sexual (no
interest in sex)
7
Did your partner seek counselling for cross dressing/ transsexualism?
yes noif yes: was the counselling at their own instigation because of pressure from you or others to seek help
how long did your counselling last
sessions over years months
what did your partner hope to gain from the counselling :
to try to stop
dressing
to feel less
guilty/ ashamed of dressing
other - please
specify
did the counselling achieve what your partner hoped it
would (partly or completely)? yes no
did it help in ways which your partner had not expected yes no
If it helped in unexpected ways, please specify:
Did your partner consider the counselling to be
no use at all
some minimal benefit quite useful very useful extremely beneficial
8
Did you seek counselling with regard to your partner's cross dressing/ transsexualism?
yes noif yes: was the counselling at your own instigation because of pressure from your partner or others to seek "help"
how long did your counselling last
sessions over years months
what did you hope to gain from the counselling :
to try to find ways of stopping your partner dressing
to come to terms with your partner's dressing/ transsexualism
other - please
specify
did the counselling achieve what you hoped it
would (partly or completely)? yes no
did it help in ways which you had not expected yes no
If it helped in unexpected ways, please specify:
Did you consider the counselling to be
no use at all
some minimal benefit quite useful very useful extremely beneficial
9
Do others know of your partner's cross dressing/ transsexualism? (tick all that apply)
only other TGs at a
support group
some of your
children
all of your
children
partner's mother
partner's father
some of your partner's
sisters/ brothers
all of your partner's
sisters/ brothers
other family
members
your mother
your father
some of your
sisters/ brothers
all of your
sisters/ brothers
other family
members
some friends/
neighbours
all / most of your
friends/ neighbours
work colleagues
if you need to expand on answers to this question,
please comment:
10
If you are now divorced/ separated, was your partner's cross dressing/ transsexualism a significant cause of the separation?
yes no
11
was your partner actively cross dressing when your relationship started? yes noIf yes, please answer question 13; if
no, please go to question 14;
12
If your partner was dressing when you started your relationship
you met when your partner was dressed en femme
or, did your partner tell you:
before the
relationship became significant
after you had been
together for a significant time
or
did you find out
without your partner telling you?
13
If your partner was not dressing when you started your current relationship did your partner tell you
as
soon as your partner realised that the dressing was becoming
significant
well after the
dressing became significant
or
did you find out
without your partner telling you
If your partner is a transvestite/ cross dresser - or went through a stage of considering themselves to be TV/CD/DQ before deciding they were TS, please answer Question 14. If they decided that they were TS without being TV etc for any time, please go to Question 16.
14
What was your reaction to learning that your partner cross dressed (tick all that apply)? total rejection
anger/ hurt that
your partner had kept it secret
ultimatum that your partner seek help to stop or you would leave
asked if your partner was gay
asked if your partner planned to have sex change
concern about what neighbours/ family would think
asked that it be kept secret from your children
you would prefer that your partner stop - but ignored it
tolerance -
providing you did not see your partner dressed and your partner was discrete
you asked questions and tried to understand
you sought help from other sources to understand the condition
you sought counselling for yourself
acceptance; you had no significant problem with seeing your partner dressed
but would not get involved
actively involved, you help your partner with make up advice, shopping etc
total involvement
- you go out with your partner dressed
Other comments:
15
Has your attitude changed since learning about your partner cross dressing? yes no
if yes has your attitude become more tolerant/ understanding less tolerant/ understanding
16
What was your reaction to learning that your partner is transsexual (tick all that apply)?
total rejection and a desire for "revenge"
total rejection - but no other action
anger/ hurt
extreme concern and a desire that your partner seek help to get cured
you accepted the situation and you still live together
you sought help to understand the condition
concern about what the neighbours/ family would think
you wanted it kept secret from children as long as possible
acceptance of the fact that your partner is TS and you remain friends but not partners
actively involved, you helped your partner with make up advice, shopping etc
Has you attitude changed since learning that your partner is TS yes no
if yes has your attitude become more tolerant less tolerant
If your attitude has become more tolerant, how long did this take?
less than 6 months
6 to 12 months
1 to 2 years
2 to 3 years
more than 2 years
How would you describe your relationship now?
antagonistic
cool. We talk politely when necessary
Quite amicable
Close Friends
Living together as companions
Partners
17
do you consider that there is a common root cause for all forms of transgenderism with other factors affecting the degree of transgenderism in an
individual and how they express it yes - I consider that all
forms of transgenderism share a common root cause
with other factors influencing the extent and way in
which it is expressed
no - I believe
that there are different basic causes for
transvestism/ crossdressing/ drag queens and
transgendered/ transsexualism
I think some
expressions of transgenderism share common routes - but
not all.
I don't know/
have an opinion
18
do you think that an individuals transgendered state is fixed or that TGs can tend to move from one state to
another fixed
it can change; TVs/CDs etc can become TS and TSs can revert to being TV
it can change; TVs/CDs etc can become TS but TSs do not revert to being TV (some TVs may have thought they were TS then realised they were not)
I have no opinion/ do not know
19
please consider the usual claimed causes of
transgenderism and indicate what you consider to be
their order of importance 1 most important, 4 least
important - leave blank any factors you consider not
at all relevant: conditioning / the way we were brought up
genetic
influences
influences
during the development of the foetus during pregnancy eg effect of testosterone
other causes
(please specify)
I do not know/
have no opinion
20
what do you think of
transvestism/ cross dressing:
tick all you think apply - then select the three you feel strongest about.
1 disgusting
2 a sickness
which can be cured
3 should not be
allowed in public
4 they should
not be allowed near children
5 ridiculous
6 they are all
gay
7 they do it to
attract men for sex
8 if that's what
they want to do, let them get on with it - so long as
I don't see it
9 it's sinful
10 not interested in understanding it
11 a medical
condition which should be accepted
21
what is your view of
transsexualism: tick all you think apply 1 disgusting
2 a sickness
which can be cured
3 it's wrong to mutilate a healthy body by having sex change 4 should not be
allowed in public
5 it's a sin
6 they should
not be allowed near children
7 ridiculous
8 they are all gay
9 they do it to
attract men for sex
10 if that's what
they want to do, let them get on with it - so long as
I don't see it
11 they are
failed "men"
12 whatever they
do they'll never be real women
13 treatment
should not be allowed on the National Health Service
14 a medical
condition which should be accepted
22
Would you agree or disagree with the view that
"Transsexualism is a medical condition - whilst transvestism/ cross dressing is a perversion?"
strongly agree
tend to agree
neither agree nor disagree
tend to disagree
strongly disagree
23
Schooling
What level of education did you reach
left without qualifications
minimum high school qualifications (UK-GCSE)
advanced high school qualifications (UK-A Levels)
College/University
Type of School Attended
Single Sex - day
Single Sex - Boarding
Co-educational - day
Co-educational - Boarding
24
Ethnic Background; are you:
Asian
Afro-caribbean
White
Other
25
Religious Background; are you:
Christian - Roman Catholic
Christian - Anglican
Christian - Non Conformist/Other
Jewish
Buddhist
Muslim
Other
None
26
Employment are you:
(if unemployed - state usual employment)
Managerial/Professional
Social Services/ Nursing/ Teaching
Military/ Police/ Fire Service or similar
Skilled/ Technical
Unskilled
Student
Other